How do adults in relationships feel about infidelity? Curiously, with all the respect in the world for the experts, on this subject I have almost no interest in the views on the subject from people who are not actually, presently, in a relationship: there has to be something at stake! Pretty much of a taboo subject? Oh, if that's so it'll be more fun to talk about, and maybe a rare truth can be unearthed. One thing's for sure: a great deal of pain and suffering are assocciated with infidelity.
I have no knowledge of infidelity outside of heterosexual relationships. I've read that homosexual relationships are indubitably associated with infidelity; in practice that view is often behind voters choice against laws permitting same sex marriages. (I mean didn't Ellen degenerous split almost on the eve of 'announcing' her 'marriage'? If so, she sure hurt the movement.)
So, I will speculate out loud about conventional couples who live dangerously and opt to cheat.
I've cheated, but not today, not yesterday and not tomorrow either. Does dwelling on the subject constitute an infidelity, or can that be part of the act of rejecting the urge, temptaion, compulsion, whatever? I'll write, here, on that subject.
Barry
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>Does dwelling on the subject constitute an infidelity, or can that be part of the act of rejecting the urge, temptaion, compulsion, whatever? I'll write, here, on that subject.
Barry>
I forgot to add that the subject is
famously in the New Testament.
Barry
One thing's for sure: a great deal of pain and suffering are assocciated with infidelity.
I've read that homosexual relationships are indubitably associated with infidelity;
I've cheated, but not today, not yesterday and not tomorrow either. Does dwelling on the subject constitute an infidelity, or can that be part of the act of rejecting the urge, temptaion, compulsion, whatever?
Barry
Again you found a good topic to answer and write about.
It sure is a great deal of pain when someone shows any form of infidelity. People suffer from it as much as a drug addict is suffering when trying to come clean.
I mean, when the truth surfaces every one invovlved feels the pain.
As to homosexuals being more infidel than others: I don't thinks so. I have known many homosexuals who stayed with one and only for almost forever.
cheating in a relationship has many forms. froma simple cyber sex to a full blown affair. What makes it bad is how it is perceived. A jealous person might be more in pain over a little moment of weakness, than another person who shows no sign of jelousy.
Example:
Woman is jealous over men hugging another person, (female or male).
Men is jealous over women showing too much interest in other people.
It creates stalkers.
On the other hand:
Men and women can hug each other or show any kind of affection to others and no one is bothered by that.
This is a good trusting relationship.
Most part what I think is wrong now a day's is; that people are not resisting temptations of any kind any more. We can control the urges or whatever, but the temptations are too ubiquious.
Thanks for a great story to reply to again.
BEA
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