Christmas. It's upon us. I notice how secretive I become about the flow of indirect 'who got what, and who will get what,' and 'why haven't I done more Xmas shopping?' I bought my wife a trivial present and joked it was a Xmas (that is, not the REAL Christmas connected gift) and she said, "That's really for YOU!" Gee, foiled again. A craven coward, I give bigger/better presents to those I'm afraid of, rather than to those I love the most. Last Christmas I mailed better presents to a former friend than I gave to anyone in my immediate family simply because he insulted me, after becoming estranged, just to get even. He wants me, and his mother wants me, to know he's well-off. I doubt I ever met his mother but I do remember for certain that the only thing she ever said to me, the ONLY thing, and it was on the phone of all places, that her son had bought the building where he lived in Greenwich Village after college. (We knew each other in college.) In other words the guy is a millionaire. And, he wants me to know it! It's no secret that money has a reputation for causing evil.
So, how much of Christmas gift giving is generated from needs to dominate, and just how much of the gift giving is an expression of love?! You be the judge.
Often, I've come to believe, the best gift-giving takes place on a cold night in June, late at night, annonymously.
Barry
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4 comments:
In my book, the only reason to give a gift is because of the love and affection that you have for the recipient. The size of gift or the cost doesn't matter. In this instance, I believe that the old cliche is true, it's the thought that counts. I often give gifts that I made myself because I want to express to the recipient that he or she is important to me and worth my time. I confess that your entry has saddened me. Giving expensive presents to someone just to prove a point totally misses the meaning of the season. Regardless of what your ex-friend wants you to know about his wealth, you can choose not to play in his game. --Sheria
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to be honest i give gifts because i feel guilty when someone buys me one,but hey i am a woman lol xxzoe xx
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Merry Christmas to you and your lovely family,love zoe xxxxx
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